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The Problematic Resolution

There is a personal matter with one specific resolution. My goal in wellness coaching is to work with individuals towards their unique dreams while tacking specific hurdles to that person. However, I hear and see this resolution everywhere and with clarity: dieting and body perceptions. It’s the time of newness we are inundated with images of gyms, diets, shakes, scales, plans, and images. A lot is valuable and can be an asset, the danger lies in your why and body perception.

My own journey back to well after having my son started with weight loss then snowballed into aha moments of tackling mental wellness and all kinds of curve balls along the way. One simple resolve to set a goal in losing baby weight was what I needed. That all said. I didn’t diet. I changed it. I did shakes for nutrition but also love my chocolate and pizza. OMG olives and bacon. I work out but found being gentle is more important for my particular body capabilities. I “listened” with filters, figured out what works for me, found grace, and made permanent changes along the way. In the mix, it was a real fight to address body perceptions. At first, my victories were not happy. Because I wasn’t skinny. As my mental health rose with my physical health, I realized how unbelievably dumb this is. Then the step of anger came. It’s so frustrating being in an industry that bombards you with images of perfection and “how-tos.” The most pinned recipes I had for a long time had the word “skinny.” I had to step away and get perspective. Thankfully, changes in how health and wellness looks are happening. It’s imperative you understand that healthy looks different. Resentment for those who are “skinny” isn’t acceptable and those who may be slightly overweight or not have a certain look can be healthy too and it’s not your judgment call. Healthy has different forms and its an internal affair. As you navigate what is your highest wellness, please keep these few things in mind.

It’s an Internal Affair

Its how you love on your self and accept your creation. Its finding your value in your gifts and talents. It’s what you eat to healing and promote physical function. It’s discovering your favorite ways or may be tolerable ways to move to gear up your body and brain. It about you.

Fight the Expectation of Extremes, Un-realities, and Fads.

Dieting sucks. It rarely works. It’s often harmful. While there are common threads in nutrition, there are differences that work for everyone. If you want to lose weight- professionals and common sense eating. Nutritionist, health coach, wellness coach, doctors, or take a nutrition course yourself — I don’t care how. Just please, do not put your body, mind, and soul on that yo-yo or in potential harm. Look for meaningful change in your lifestyle. There are plans, points, and programs out there that can help. Know that whatever change you make, its a long term change. Then keep the scale in perspective. Your weight fluctuates naturally and it can stall out for a time being. Trust your process and listen when things aren’t working in over an extended period of time. A professional can help you guide this. In all this scale talk, muscle weighs more than fat. After I lost weight, I gained some back and still doing a little. My waistline and measurements are not going in a negative direction. I am strengthening and seeing those results. Scale, overall feeling, and all measurements should be taken into account. Make those changes stick. Stopping the yo-yo means cutting the cord to go back.

Work It Out For You

Rarely do I find going to the gym enjoyable. I love my personal yoga studio and going to yoga studios. I love being outside. I love joining others in their active passions every once and while. Wonderful people own and go to gyms. It’s their thing. Some its kickboxing. Just a walk. Refit. Zumba. Pilates. Be open to anything and get to know you. Someone’s passion may become a shared passion. Or it may be love from a distance. Do not feel you have to run or do extremes. I love challenging myself and working within limitations, aerial yoga is for me. Work it for you.

Have grace in those pitfalls and don’t let it stop you getting back on your path. Love yourself while you create a greater you.

Namaste, Juls

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The New Year’s Resolve

The New Year’s Resolve

For some, New Years Resolutions has the true power to bring change. For the rest of us, there are just too many memes making fun of New Years Resolutions and it holds some serious truth. Under those phrases of superficial hope is lack of trust in newness and the potency change can bring in our lives. To claim that power of purposeful change, it often takes mental shifts of how we see ourselves. Then its pulling that dream down to you in a tangible and achievable way.

Be Willing

Change is mental and mentality needs will to drive it. The monster of an impact we want in change is to train our brains into being willing. “I am willing to change” from Louise Hay’s publications is a simple yet potent phrase. You may be as surprised as I was at what little whispers come up when saying this phrase. Those whispers of doubt and mistrust are powerful blocks toward making outward growth. Commanding your willingness daily, if not hourly, is powerful in retraining your mental state. That retraining may mean tackling some deep issues. Seek help and support whether is professional, family, friends, life or wellness coach, community group, self help book or course. Let your brain know “I am willing to change” so that the rest of you follows.

Digging, healing, and retraining takes time. You can set mini goals in the mean time. Make sure they are achievable for you and enhance your process. Any way you want to be active works. Any step towards a healthier diet, not dieting, works. Do not beat on yourself or let any one do so if these changes are small or take time. Baby steps lead to bigger steps. As long as your stepping, your stepping up. Unless a professional says it’s an emergency, work with in your time frame and abilities.

I Choose

Claim you, “I choose to.” Set a tangible, you cant smell it and touch it, it gonna happen because you can choose. Set a goal. Resolution is to do and goal is where you’re headed. Know where you’re headed. If you don’t like the goal analogy then set a target, finish line, achievement, or fairy dance. It doesn’t matter what you call it, it’s the understanding you are set for a personal destination. Once you have that goal you need to gather what it takes to get there. Elementary my dears: who, what, where, when, and hows. Who can help you? What resource do you need? What time investments? Where is this needing to take place? When do this need to happen by or not? When should certain achievements take place before you can advance? How long should this take? Or not? Then write it. Vision board it. Make a video to your future self on how this got done. A reminder, a map is extremely helpful. It my be helpful to add your why? why do you choose to do this? for you? for a desired life style? for family? a person? to overcome? Your why can be your reminder to drive. Add that in your visuals.

There is a disclosure I must share. Initially I started with a goal and then went back to dig deeper. Goal setting may lead you to something incredible. For my personal advancement, it’s been a cycle of dig deep, know myself, and goal. Over and over and over. If a goal needs to be set first to ignite those first steps, then light it up. Trust your process.

Whatever it is you want in this newness of 2019, be gracious with yourself. Set what works for you and know it doesn’t have to take full steam right now. You have a full year! If not more! Be willing, make your choice, and be victorious.

Namaste JRiley