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The Art of Letting Go

There is always something to let go. 

Frustration has a range from long lines, traffic, or a thoughtless action to catastrophic level life events. When we do not let go, anywhere on the scale, it builds up. It infects our mental health and manifests itself in our physical health. Stomach ache, fatigue, headaches, indigestion may all be emotionally driven. For your peace of mind and peace in body, you need to discover release. Creating the masterpiece of letting go is a process that can be completed with ease.

This process begins with one central rule: never suppress the emotion or issue. Always acknowledge what emotion is rising to the surface. Yet, take caution when putting to word to an emotion and allowing it in your space. Acknowledgment and dwelling are two different actions. Noticing is as an objective description by you. Dwelling is nose dive into the emotion with fingers pointed, often in many directions. Step back to see the emotion rising without blame for you or another person. It does not remove the responsibility one or you may have. This acknowledgement of emotion starts the process. From here, write or talk with a trusted person about what triggered it’s presence. Run through the what happened, who is involved, and how it affect you. Going through this process pulls all that comes with that emotion to the surface. Once you can see this bundle of emotion with actions and memories, it eases creating release. Have it all in hand and ready to let go? There are a few mediums or ways to create your art of letting go.

Pick what jumps out at you. This is what you need at this moment.

  • Make it a ceremony.  Most happy moments in life are marked ceremoniously; by party, pictures, commemorative dates, etc.  Letting go can be one of those moments of joy for you to make space and unburden yourself.
    • Make a bonfire, I am all for setting – environmentally safe- things ablaze.  You can use an object or write what you want to release on a paper then throw it in the pyre.
    •  Light a candle. Its is a bit less dramatic; however, it is effective in marking this moment of letting go.  Repeating the statement in step two, reciting a mantra, saying a prayer are ways to enhancing your candle ceremony.
  • Write it out.  Write a letter to your younger self, future self if the letting go centralizes on you.  Journal or write a letter to a person to unload.  If you have letting go of a person or something between you and them, write to them.
  • Make literal art.  Coloring pages may help.  Create an abstract of what you feel.  Use your favorite medium and symbolism in an artwork.  Or create art that has nothing to do with it at all.  The act of creating aids in processing emotions and thoughts.
  • Confront.  You may need to confront a person and know you are ready to respectfully and firmly do so.  Do so.  You are not responsible for their actions but are in control of appropriately expressing yourself.  You might want to write it out first.
  • Cord cutting. Visualize cutting a cord while stating what or whom you are cutting away from. It can be a literal act with a rope or ribbon or cord. Find one and cut it while making your statements.
  • Meditation and prayer.  Clearing the junk in your head and heart are essential.  In one or several sessions, meditation and prayer give you the opportunity to process, organize, and offer your burden to the heavens.  My favorite is under moonlight. It is one of the closest settings I feel to my creator.  Put yourself in that literal space and head space to let go.

In everything in your art of letting go find grace and love for yourself.  It’s important to know that you are in control of your release.  You are worthy to be respected and other people are worthy to be respected.  When you meet at this intersection of kindness for yourself and others, it makes creating your masterpiece of release easier.  Inhale your comfort and exhale your complication, worry, irritation, etc.  Take up your brush and design your letting go.

Namaste

Juls

Next week may be what you need in your food life.  I and #thecalmRiley certainly did.  Say “YES” to leveling out the pH in your food relationship with new recipes and quick tips.

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Curve balls and Making Boomerangs

Curve balls and Making Boomerangs

Our life is rarely quiet and recently was no exception. While I was pulling a late evening volunteer shift, my husband was putting a shift in the carpool and kids activity. Then our carpool collided with nature. Unfortunately for the deer it didn’t end well and the car took a beating. Over a year ago, the anxiety and stress would’ve undone everything then permeated every where.  Not to say it wasn’t present in the action of the accident, aftermath, tons of phone calls, waiting for the tow truck, logistics, etc.  We live in a world where conflict and stress happens. It’s what we do with it that impacts our bodies and minds.  From there it leaks into every else you are in contact with.  How did we keep the pieces together that night?

First of all, deep breaths.  Lack of oxygen to your brain and body affect your decision and coping ability.  Pause.  When you are in a place do this, acknowledge your emotions and take a gratitude inventory.  It was sometime after the event before I got to the accident and picked up the kids.  We discussed the event, how everyone felt.  We didn’t just name, we acknowledged, ” this is how I feel and it’s okay.”  It ends there.  We have emotions and they can guided us.  However, when we are emotions, they rule us.  The conversation shifted to gratefulness.  Everyone was safe, #hubby had the situation handled, we have great neighbors to check on the dog,  and our car was on it’s way to be fixed soon. Was this a blissful moment, absolutely not.  Yet, it was moment of growth and one was gained a bit more control over us.  It was an attitude shift in a curve ball that made a boomerang affect.  In situations, how we react comes back and we can benefit or hurt ourselves and others.  We still had the next day of tiredness and more logistics to get through.  Our attitude and perspective gave way to ability to cope, production, and even humor at times.  It’s not perfect, but steps in the right direction.

Breathe. Acknowledge. Take Inventory. 

Curve balls happen, what kind of boomerang effect do you want?

Namaste and I’m napping today

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Health Foodie: For your Heart

A lot comes through my media and email with shockers like “number one killer” or ” this could kill you.” Yes death is a reality and even a fear.  Matter of the heart are serious and, seriously, when your heart is cared for, it does much to amplify the quality of your life.  What if we shift our focus to finding habits to enhance our heart health?

A lot of the following suggestions of physical habits are general preventative measures or maintenance.  Everyone is different and a sit down with your doctor, nutritionist, health coach, etc for individual guidance is important.  Especially if you are seeking treatment for heart or blood conditions.  According to American Heart Association, the best heart diet is one full of fruit, veggies, whole grains (think ancient), lean meat, low fat dairy, and nuts.  Across the board, for most this is a great guideline for any one.  What any heart and food relationship needs restraints in are limited: saturated fat, red meat, sodium, sweets, and sugar sweetened beverages.  Kick trans fat to the curb. Period.  Why these guidelines? Fiber and Omegas found in many veggies, whole grains, and lean meats are important for gut thus heart function.  Too much processed foods, sugar, fats can damage your gut, build up in blood vessels, then affect your heart.  Your food relationship is your daily healer.  Physical activity is important and looks different for everyone.  The important thing is to find something you enjoy.  There are lighter ends like Qi Gong, Tai Chi, Yin/Restorative Yoga to walking, Hatha Yoga, Pilates, biking, zumba, Refit, and more.  If you want to run, run.  If you want to box, box.  If you like the gym and it holds you accountable, then make time for it. Take a class.  Find an app or youtube at home.  Find what you like and take limitations into account.   I am rarely in the mood for the gym.  Yoga in its many forms is my thing and other than an relished and occasional class due to time constraints, my practice is at home.

What you do for your physical health impacts your mental well being.  Your mental care habits affect your body and heart.  It’s a never ending circle to represent the whole you.   There isn’t solid study evidence to date on the link of mental to heart health. Yet.  However, many professionals support this link as found on heart.org.  Prolonged stress effects many things from gut to brain to your heart.  Since stress is a natural part of life and many times can’t be avoided, you need stress busters.

Ways to bust

  • hobby
  • journaling
  • physical activity (two for one!)
  • time with loved ones
  • coloring/ creative activity
  • play dough (its for adults too)
  • prayer/meditation
  • water feature or sounds
  • Essential oils: peppermint and lavender
  • Practice mindfulness
  • Practice or journal gratitude
  • Breathing apps
  • Self care: baths, massage, reiki, spa day, nails
  • Find your limitations and stick with them.  Yes is potent. No is potent. Listen to yourself to know when to use what and when.
  • Community service

This isn’t a pick one and done list.  And you have the freedom to rotate, pick a few, or pick many.  Your inner voice and preferences are powerful.  Listen to them and begin building those stress busting habits.  Your food relationship, activity level, and mental care are essential for your heart health.

Your heart matters

Namaste

I am not affiliated with above link to the American Heart Association.  Their website is wonderful, check it out at Heart.org

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I Didn’t Mean too, but I Mean Too

What do I mean by this? I am not trying to purposefully overuse that word,  maybe I am.  There are a lot of things we just say but don’t necessarily mean.  There are things we do and do so unintentionally.  This is part of being a human being; however, at what point do we let our actions, words, and life become so accidental? I know I have phases where I fee like a pinball bouncing around.  Recently, as I listen and observe around me, this phrase, “I didn’t mean too,” is spoken.  A lot.   Especially from my children.  As their eyes roll from the mom lessons about being mindful, I realize how important setting intent is to our lives.  This hit me the hardest in a grocery line this past week.  I had the #redreignsofterror and #ghost child, which is distracting at the least. Tons of groceries. I was at the finish line and just done.  The cashier was kind and friendly.  However, the bagger was overly friendly and we began to converse as our mounds of purchases were being loaded.  As the three of us said our good byes a sinking feeling set in.  I wasn’t as open with the cashier.  There was the obvious barrier as this person is a foreigner.  Was there a language barrier? Was she shy? Were my kids too much noise?  I don’t know!!  This is all simply because I did not have the intent to reach beyond awkwardness to engage this gracious person.  I didn’t mean too, but I needed to mean too.  The power of intent is immense.  I need to become intentional in my every day community connections. How does one move from accidental to on purpose?  Start with core of you.


Know

  • What is core to your beliefs? About you? People? How do you treat people? How you treat yourself?

“How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.”

Wayne Dyer

  • What do you want to accomplish? Talents? Life goals?
  • What wellness issues do you need to tackle?
  • How do you handle stress? What is your mental health like?

Use Resources and Community to Help You


Prioritize

Pick top three and start there.  As new habits take hold  then go back to your list and pick a few more. You can pick a long term, short term, and now.  As the now and short term are mastered, replace them.

Make it easier to accomplish with a few


Realize

It takes time. It takes grace.  Be aware of the moments you are in as they are happening now.

“…Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy- think of such things.”

Philippians 4:8

Have grace and be here now


Commit

Write it everywhere. Set reminders on phone. Think or meditate about it.  Let it sink in your core.  It is a continual effort to be intentional.


 

Intent is changing your future by adjustments you make now.

I am not designed to live an accidental life.  I want care for my body to be on purpose.  Care for my mind to be on purpose.  Care for my soul to be on purpose. I set intents to change my life, how I respect others, and react in all situations. I am in continual transformation.  You are too.  Set your intents and journey with me as we live an “on purpose life”.  

My intentional addition

I intend for my connections with others to be given full effort and meaningful.

What are your intentions? Please share in the comment section

Namaste and Mean Too