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The Art of Letting Go

There is always something to let go. 

Sometimes it’s a thin thread of irritation of long lines, traffic, or a thoughtless action.  Other times it reaches the catastrophic level.  Then there is all in between.  When we do not let go, any where on the scale, it builds up.  It infects our mental health and manifests itself in our physical health. Stomach ache, fatigue, headaches, indigestion may all be emotionally driven.  Anxiety and worry may be fueled by a need to let something go.  The great news is that simple steps is all you need to arm yourself.  Not so great is that it is a process and it can be messy.  For the larger issues in life it takes multiple acts and time.  Trust that process and trust yourself to find ways to cut the cords.  Make your masterpiece of release and peace.

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  1. Never suppress the emotion or issue.  Always acknowledge it.  It’s important to note what you are feeling, why you are feeling it, and it’s trigger.  Noticing and dwelling are two different actions. Noticing is as an objective description by you.  Dwelling is nose dive into the emotion with fingers pointed, often in many directions.  Note the feeling  Note it’s cause and it’s trigger. Write it if it helps.
  2. Say it. Breathe it. Release it.  You can say out loud or in your head, ” I release _______________ as it no longer serves me.” Inhale then exhale it out. When it’s something small, like your child says momma a million times,  acknowledgement and a good breath out is generally enough.

 Then again, sometimes it’s not.  

Even one is different and digging in deep to release looks different for everyone. 

Pick what jumps out at you. This is what you need at this moment.

  • Make it a ceremony.  Most happy moments in life are marked ceremoniously; by party, pictures, commemorative dates, etc.  Letting go can be one of those moments of joy for you to make space and unburden yourself.
    • Make a bonfire, I am all for setting – environmentally safe- things ablaze.  You can use an object or write what you want to release on a paper then throw it in the pyre.
    •  Light a candle. Its is a bit less dramatic; however, it is effective in marking this moment of letting go.  Repeating the statement in step two, reciting a mantra, saying a prayer are ways to enhancing your candle ceremony.
  • Write it out.  Write a letter to your younger self, future self if the letting go centralizes on you.  Journal or write a letter to a person to unload.  If you have letting go of a person or something between you and them, write to them.
  • Make literal art.  Coloring pages may help.  Create an abstract of what you feel.  Use your favorite medium and symbolism in an artwork.  Or create art that has nothing to do with it at all.  The act of creating aids in processing emotions and thoughts.
  • Confide or confront.  Sometimes a coffee or tea meeting helps to unleash those bottled thoughts and emotions.  A trusted and honest friend may help you process through all of them.  You may need to confront a persona and feeling ready to respectfully and firmly do so.  Do so.  You are not responsible for their actions but are in control of appropriately expressing yourself.  You might want to write it out first.
  • Meditation and prayer.  Clearing the junk in your head and heart are essential.  In one or several sessions, meditation and prayer give you the opportunity to process, organize, and offer your burden to the heavens.  My favorite is under moonlight. It is one of the closest settings I feel to my creator.  Put yourself in that literal space and head space to let go.
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In everything in your art of letting go find grace and love for yourself.  It’s important to know that you are in control of you and no one else.  You are worthy to be respected and other people are worthy to be respected.  When you meet at this intersection of kindness for yourself and others, it makes creating your masterpiece of release easier.  Inhale your comfort and exhale your complication, worry, irritation, etc.  Take up your brush and design your letting go.

Namaste

Find your masterpiece of peace

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I Didn’t Mean too, but I Mean Too

What do I mean by this? I am not trying to purposefully overuse that word,  maybe I am.  There are a lot of things we just say but don’t necessarily mean.  There are things we do and do so unintentionally.  This is part of being a human being; however, at what point do we let our actions, words, and life become so accidental? I know I have phases where I fee like a pinball bouncing around.  Recently, as I listen and observe around me, this phrase, “I didn’t mean too,” is spoken.  A lot.   Especially from my children.  As their eyes roll from the mom lessons about being mindful, I realize how important setting intent is to our lives.  This hit me the hardest in a grocery line this past week.  I had the #redreignsofterror and #ghost child, which is distracting at the least. Tons of groceries. I was at the finish line and just done.  The cashier was kind and friendly.  However, the bagger was overly friendly and we began to converse as our mounds of purchases were being loaded.  As the three of us said our good byes a sinking feeling set in.  I wasn’t as open with the cashier.  There was the obvious barrier as this person is a foreigner.  Was there a language barrier? Was she shy? Were my kids too much noise?  I don’t know!!  This is all simply because I did not have the intent to reach beyond awkwardness to engage this gracious person.  I didn’t mean too, but I needed to mean too.  The power of intent is immense.  I need to become intentional in my every day community connections. How does one move from accidental to on purpose?  Start with core of you.


Know

  • What is core to your beliefs? About you? People? How do you treat people? How you treat yourself?

“How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.”

Wayne Dyer

  • What do you want to accomplish? Talents? Life goals?
  • What wellness issues do you need to tackle?
  • How do you handle stress? What is your mental health like?

Use Resources and Community to Help You


Prioritize

Pick top three and start there.  As new habits take hold  then go back to your list and pick a few more. You can pick a long term, short term, and now.  As the now and short term are mastered, replace them.

Make it easier to accomplish with a few


Realize

It takes time. It takes grace.  Be aware of the moments you are in as they are happening now.

“…Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy- think of such things.”

Philippians 4:8

Have grace and be here now


Commit

Write it everywhere. Set reminders on phone. Think or meditate about it.  Let it sink in your core.  It is a continual effort to be intentional.


 

Intent is changing your future by adjustments you make now.

I am not designed to live an accidental life.  I want care for my body to be on purpose.  Care for my mind to be on purpose.  Care for my soul to be on purpose. I set intents to change my life, how I respect others, and react in all situations. I am in continual transformation.  You are too.  Set your intents and journey with me as we live an “on purpose life”.  

My intentional addition

I intend for my connections with others to be given full effort and meaningful.

What are your intentions? Please share in the comment section

Namaste and Mean Too