Our life is rarely quiet and recently was no exception. While I was pulling a late evening volunteer shift, my husband was putting a shift in the carpool and kids activity. Then our carpool collided with nature. Unfortunately for the deer it didn’t end well and the car took a beating. Over a year ago, the anxiety and stress would’ve undone everything then permeated every where. Not to say it wasn’t present in the action of the accident, aftermath, tons of phone calls, waiting for the tow truck, logistics, etc. We live in a world where conflict and stress happens. It’s what we do with it that impacts our bodies and minds. From there it leaks into every else you are in contact with. How did we keep the pieces together that night?
First of all, deep breaths. Lack of oxygen to your brain and body affect your decision and coping ability. Pause. When you are in a place do this, acknowledge your emotions and take a gratitude inventory. It was sometime after the event before I got to the accident and picked up the kids. We discussed the event, how everyone felt. We didn’t just name, we acknowledged, ” this is how I feel and it’s okay.” It ends there. We have emotions and they can guided us. However, when we are emotions, they rule us. The conversation shifted to gratefulness. Everyone was safe, #hubby had the situation handled, we have great neighbors to check on the dog, and our car was on it’s way to be fixed soon. Was this a blissful moment, absolutely not. Yet, it was moment of growth and one was gained a bit more control over us. It was an attitude shift in a curve ball that made a boomerang affect. In situations, how we react comes back and we can benefit or hurt ourselves and others. We still had the next day of tiredness and more logistics to get through. Our attitude and perspective gave way to ability to cope, production, and even humor at times. It’s not perfect, but steps in the right direction.
Breathe. Acknowledge. Take Inventory.
Curve balls happen, what kind of boomerang effect do you want?
Namaste and I’m napping today